AITJ for telling my neighbor to address her husband’s creepy behavior instead of policing my clothes in my own home?
I (34F) was doing yoga in my living room yesterday morning, wearing leggings and a sports bra, as I often do. I live alone and keep my curtains mostly drawn for privacy, but I like to leave a small gap for natural light.
Mid-stretch, there’s a furious pounding at my door. I open it to find a woman I’ve never seen before, who introduces herself as my new next-door neighbor, Sarah. Without so much as a “hello,” she launches into a tirade about how I make her uncomfortable and I need to cover up.
I’m utterly confused. I ask what exactly I’ve done, since we’ve never interacted before. She says her husband has seen me doing yoga “half-naked” through my window and it’s inappropriate.
I glance down at my outfit – standard workout gear, nothing scandalous. I tell her I’m not sure why her husband is staring into my windows, but that sounds like an issue she needs to take up with him, not me.
She sputters that I’m being immodest and disrespectful to the neighborhood. I counter that I’m minding my own business in my own home, and it’s completely inappropriate for her husband to be spying on me and reporting back to her.
I suggest that instead of policing my wardrobe, she should have a conversation with her husband about respecting neighbors’ privacy and not being a creep. She accuses me of trying to seduce him and threatens to report me to the HOA.
At that point, I’ve had enough. I tell her that her insecurities and her husband’s wandering eye are not my problem, and I will not change how I dress in my own home to cater to a Peeping Tom. I shut the door on her sputtering face.
Now I’m wondering, AITJ here? I may have been a bit harsh, but I’m tired of being told to cater to the male gaze in my own safe space. And frankly, if she’s more upset about my yoga pants than her husband’s behavior, they have bigger issues than my fashion choices.
