Would I be the AH if I take my guy friends offer to install a new hood over my stove since my husband refuses to do it.
I 45 female am married to my husband 46 male “Jack”. Almost 2 years ago we had a grease fire and it destroyed the hood vent over the stove, the cabinets and burnt a couple of spots on the floor. Thankfully the damage was minimal so instead of involving insurance we would make the repairs ourselves. Well that was in April almost 2 years ago and NOTHING has been done.
I have purchased the materials needed but my husband will not help me do anything. A couple of days ago I was over at my mom’s and a good friend of mine “Tim” that I have known all my life stopped by to check on how my dad was doing (he has ALS) when he saw us in the yard. Tim is a contractor and has done a lot of work for my dad over the years and they are pretty close. So we were talking and in conversation I mentioned my kitchen and he said he would come by and get my hood and cabinets installed for me.
The problem is Jack and Tim are not friends at all. They don’t have any issues but they just don’t really know each other and Jack is extremely controlling and hates all my friends no matter what. That is a whole other problem in itself. He would be absolutely furious if Tim came and installed them while he wasn’t home but wouldn’t allow him to do it if he was home. So I don’t know what to do. He won’t do it, we don’t have the money to pay someone to do it and I know if I try by myself I am gonna fuck it up. So would I be in the wrong if I tell Tim to just come do it and just deal with the consequences of my actions. Thanks
