I came across a post on X where a husband was pressing his wife for intimacy only a month after she had given birth. The way it was described, he kept insisting, disregarding her clear signals and her need for recovery.
Eventually, he forced the issue, and afterward he admitted feeling remorse. His wife cried for more than six hours. She had already been struggling with depression before this incident, and what happened only deepened her pain.
When I first read it, my immediate thought was that this man was a disgrace. But then I scrolled through the comments and reposts, and what I found was even more disturbing.
There were countless men defending his actions, attempting to rationalize what cannot be justified. Yet when asked simple questions—like what physical and emotional challenges women face during childbirth—most of them had no answers.
That ignorance revealed something larger. It showed how little awareness there is about the realities of birth, recovery, and consent. It showed how selfishness can be cloaked in entitlement.
I felt a deep frustration reading those responses. It wasn’t just about one man’s cruelty—it was about a wider culture that normalizes disregard for women’s bodies and voices.
This is not a marital dispute. It is not a matter of “communication issues.” It is sexual assault, plain and simple. Naming it clearly matters.
And yet, the online discourse kept twisting it into excuses, as though the wife’s pain was secondary to the husband’s desires. That distortion is dangerous.
What struck me most was how preventable this ignorance could be. With proper education, with honest conversations about childbirth and recovery, with respect for consent, so much harm could be avoided.
As a society, we desperately need more sexual education—not just for teenagers, but for adults who still fail to grasp the basics of respect, empathy, and responsibility.
