I (34F) don’t know what to do after my husband (32M) kissed his so-called “work wife.”
We’ve been married for several years, and while our relationship has had ups and downs, I always believed we had a foundation of trust. He has often mentioned this colleague, calling her his “work wife,” and I brushed it off as harmless office banter.
Recently, however, he admitted that things crossed a line. They were out after work, had a few drinks, and he kissed her. He told me it didn’t go further, but the fact that it happened at all has left me shaken.
I can’t stop replaying the moment in my head, even though I wasn’t there. The idea that he shared something so intimate with another woman makes me feel betrayed.
When I confronted him, he said it was a mistake, that he felt guilty immediately, and that he doesn’t want to lose me. He insists it meant nothing, but to me, it means everything.
I’ve always believed emotional boundaries are just as important as physical ones. Calling someone a “work wife” already blurred the lines, and now I feel those boundaries have been broken completely.
Part of me wants to forgive him, especially since we share a life together, but another part of me wonders if this is the beginning of a bigger problem.
I don’t know how to move forward. Do I demand stricter boundaries? Do I insist he cut ties with her? Or do I accept that this may have changed our marriage forever?
Right now, I feel lost, hurt, and unsure of what the next step should be.
