I need some outside perspective.
AITA: My husband went to doc back in September. He needs a colonoscopy. I reminded him in October. In Nov, he had yet to schedule. I reminded him again and told him to try to schedule it before end of year because we hit all insurance and basically free.
He told me yesterday he scheduled for 19th. We supposed to be in NE for the holidays. He then said we needed to wait and then after his colonoscopy, we would drive there. Which means I would be driving 7 plus hours by myself in late afternoon and evening. I don’t do well at night. I could do it if in the morning.
I told him to r/s to after 1st of year. He said no to help save money.
So he then r/s to next Wednesday 17th and said he needed me to pick him up at 12:30. I told him I can’t do that because of my job. I am a teacher and it is one of my busiest times of year.
He’s says I am being rigid, not flexible, and selfish. Also, that I don’t care about him.
I explained that I can’t just leave my class for 30 minutes especially at the lunch hour. Plus he’s going to under general anesthesia. He needs somebody to be with him. Also, what if it takes longer than 30 minutes. He said you would figure it out if it was an emergency. This is not an emergency.
I also told him I can’t leave that day because I have parents coming in to help with a big project, a party I am leading, and a parent conference after school.
All of this was scheduled before his colonoscopy which he did not check with my schedule. He says it is because I can’t talk on the phone. I mentioned that he could do it when I get home. He says they are closed – I get home most days at 3:30.
He told me to figure it out because he would do it for for me.
I told him I wouldn’t have given him a week’s notice to figure it out for something that’s going to require me to take a day off of work. And it’s not on me if he waited until last minute to get it scheduled.
I told him to reschedule for the first of the year and I didn’t care if we’d have to pay more because at this point in time there’s not a lot of options with the holidays.
He said no and figure it out. I said no. He’s says I am a shit because family first and now isn’t talking me.
