So I (49m) recently just finalized my divorce with my ex (48f) after 20 years of marriage. Due to a lot of mental issues, having a dead bedroom things just fell apart for us. She refused to get help no matter how much we talked, she had no interest in fixing our relationship as she thought it was fine.
I don’t hate her, I feel bad for her, but I just couldn’t take the neglect and metal abuse anymore. I really tried to make it work, never even cheating, although plenty of opertunities presented themselves.
Anyway, yesterday day I was at the gym. Been going there about a year after we separated and before the divorce was finalized. And a woman we’ll call Ashley (28f) came up to me and complemented me on how good I was starting to look.
She mentioned she noticed me a few weeks after I started at the gym. Thought I looked handsome but saw I was wearing a ring, so she never approached me. She noticed that I was no longer wearing a ring and thought she would ask about it.
We sat and chatted for awhile. I explained that I was recently single and a little about my life. After a while I could tell she was flirting with me. So I asked her out for dinner. I know, I know, probably wasn’t the best idea after just meeting someone brand new. But having been alone for a year, being a guy, just being around a woman felt good. Even if it was only dinner.
To tell you the truth, I felt really she was out of my league. She was smart, carried a conversation well and on top of it, very beautiful. Yet some how she was into me? I’m aware I’m not some GQ guy but I think I’m at solid 7 in terms of looks, at least at my age.
Anyway, we both finished out workouts together. We exchanged phone numbers and then decided to meet up for dinner at a local restaurant. To say I was a little nervous is an understatement. 20+ year since I was on a real date, guess can do that to you.
I met her at the door of the restaurant and we were seated. As we talked my nerves went away. It was kind of weird, the conversation was so easy, we really seemed to click. We both had a lot of the same interests and hobbies. Almost felt natural, only way to describe it.
After dinner, she offered me to come over to her place for drinks. I first refused, as thought it was her just being polite, but she insisted. She stated she was having a wonderful time and wanted to get to know me more. NGL, I knew in the back of my mind that this was probably not a good idea, (but something else was doing my thinking.)
Needless to say ended up at her place. She got us wine and we talk and the more we talked the more flirty we both got. Needless to say, we ended up in her bedroom. It had been years since having touched a woman so intimately that it almost felt foreign or unnatural. But as things progressed it soon became natural and well let’s just say the s6x was amazing.
In the morning, we sat and talked and had breakfast. If felt good to be wanted, needed and appreciated. Something I haven’t had in a while. Shortly after I left and went home.
While on the way home, I called my older brother. He called me stupid and an AH for having s6x with someone 20yrs my junior. We kind of argued about it, telling him it wasn’t like she was 18 or something. I hung up on him as he was starting to be a prick (always been that way).
So called my best friend thinking getting a different opinion. (Hoping he would agree with me mostly) However he agreed with my brother that was kind of an AH move to have s6x with someone way younger than me. He didn’t quite come out and call me an AH like my brother but he hinted at it.
So now I’m wondering if I’m the AH creep now?
And if so, how do I now handle Ashley? Do I tell her it was fun, but the age gap it too big?
