I am 35, and my husband is 39. We have been married for five years. Before our marriage, he spent nearly a decade with his high-school companion. Their relationship ended due to incompatibility, and they eventually lost contact.
Recently, his former partner suffered kidney failure and is now undergoing dialysis. She came to our city for treatment and, according to my husband, reached out to him through a mutual acquaintance.
My husband expressed his desire to help her. I asked him, gently, whether she had her own family or friends to support her, and why she would suddenly turn to him after so many years.
He became upset, accusing me of being petty. He said that my questions were immature, especially given that she is a patient, and insisted that he expected better from me.
I then suggested alternatives. If her situation is truly dire, we could arrange accommodation in another flat or even finance professional nursing care. I explained that I did not want to be personally involved in her recovery, nor did I wish to accompany him to the hospital.
My husband dismissed my suggestions. He said he was disappointed in me, claiming that I was showing jealousy over a long-ended relationship and failing to demonstrate maturity in the face of illness.
This left me conflicted. I do not wish to appear cold-hearted, but I also believe boundaries are necessary. Supporting her financially or logistically seems reasonable, but personal nursing feels inappropriate.
Some people have accused me of fabricating this situation. To clarify, I even have a nursing home visitation slip as proof.
I asked how to upload pictures to validate my account, since I do not want my words to be dismissed.
Finally, I am grateful to the moderators for reconsidering my appeal after my post was initially labeled as fake. Their response meant a great deal to me.
So, I ask again: am I truly in the wrong here?
