I’m a 32-year-old woman, married to my husband (36) for six years. This is my first serious relationship. I love him—he’s witty, intelligent, and we share so much—but he has always been somewhat hot-tempered.
A few months ago, work stress pushed me into burnout. As an autistic person, this worsened my executive dysfunction, and I’ve been on sick leave ever since.
My energy is extremely low. Even simple tasks leave me drained. I sleep excessively, avoid socializing, and often skip meals. I know it’s unhealthy, but I’m trying my best.
My husband has grown frustrated. We no longer share physical intimacy, I don’t cook daily, and the house isn’t as orderly as he prefers.
Several times, when I couldn’t manage household tasks, he yelled. Other times, he ignored me for hours. When I explained my struggles, he accused me of exaggerating for attention.
I tried to push myself to meet his expectations, but exhaustion always forced me to stop. He dismissed my explanations, saying he had enough burdens already.
I live in fear of his anger. I cry almost daily, unsure if it’s burnout or guilt for not meeting his needs. I suggested a break, but he refused, insisting it was my duty as his wife to stay.
Two weeks ago, I told him I wanted a divorce. He had a meltdown, yelling for hours, then later apologized, saying I was being irrational. I hesitated, but when I repeated my decision, he erupted again.
Yesterday, I found him with both our parents waiting for me. They said they were worried, claiming I was isolating and harming myself. I felt cornered, humiliated, and defensive.
Afterward, he told me he contacted my GP and psychologist, and even booked a psychiatrist appointment. He insists they all care and want me to recover.
Part of me still wants to leave. Another part wonders if they’re right. I love him, but I feel guilty, selfish, and overwhelmed.
