I’m devastated, so I’ll keep this straightforward. My wife came out to me last week. Our second daughter was born only three months ago, and I learned she had been unfaithful for most of the pregnancy.
Since telling me, she has been posting on social media about her “newfound authenticity,” her partner, and receiving praise for her bravery. What hurts even more is that she and her girlfriend have been presenting themselves online as co-parents to our newborn. I only discovered this woman even existed a week ago.
Meanwhile, I’m left grappling with betrayal, the collapse of my marriage, and the sense that I’m not allowed to be angry because she was “finding her true self.”
We will be divorcing—her request—but I want to keep things amicable for the sake of our two children. Initially, we agreed not to involve lawyers. I feel numb, unsure how to process any of this. Despite everything, I still love her, and she is the mother of my kids.
I asked myself how to navigate this situation without bitterness. But the imbalance is overwhelming.
Edit: I didn’t expect so many responses. The overwhelming consensus is that I’d be foolish not to hire a lawyer. I’ll be contacting one today.
Several people pointed out that without legal protection, my wife and her girlfriend could make decisions about my daughter’s health, travel, and living arrangements without my input. That realization hit me hard.
Thank you to everyone who reached out. Your words have helped me step outside my own fog and see the reality more clearly.
